When my husband was in middle school, his grandmother passed away and his grandfather who was retired and in relatively good health felt he could no longer live alone in his home about five hours away. Then only fourteen years-old, my husband says their family seemed happy to bring in his grandfather. My mother-in-law, however, remembers it a little differently: “It was like having another child,” she told me. “Suddenly I had more laundry, another mouth to feed, someone I had to drive to the doctor or grocery store. I was a wife, mother, teacher, and suddenly a caregiver as well.”
After a month with their new roommate, the family felt it was time for Grandaddy Carter to find an assisted living facility. However, even though he had health insurance and Medicare, they were shocked to find out that neither of these programs pay for any sort of Long Term Care Services. “We had to get the entire family together and talk about how we were going to come together to pay for Dad’s stay,” my father-in-law describes. “We ended up picking up much of the bill ourselves. With young kids and full-time jobs ourselves, it was too much to have him living with us. And we paid for that decision financially, and I am really not sure we could have done so today.”
When I ask their family about this time, they are nostalgic for the time their grandfather’s spent with them, but my mother-in-law can only remember the sheer exhaustion, both physically and mentally. Beyond being stressed, she says she wasn’t sure if she was doing what would be best in the long run for her kids as well as what was best or her father-in-law’s health. “I felt so torn. Looking back I am grateful for the experience and what our family learned and the time we spent together, but at the time it was really difficult. When I look at my kids now I am thankful they got to see what caring for an older person was like, and I wonder which one of them would take care of me one day.”
As her own children have moved to different parts of the country hours from home, my mother-in-law decided to buy long-term care insurance for her and her husband at a relatively young (50). Long-term care is essentially all of the services my mother-in-law took care of that are not covered by the typical individual health insurance, including assistance with typical daily activities such as cleaning and dressing oneself, or even simply getting in and out of bed. Since seeing her own father-in-law need help with basic needs, she felt like she needed to take steps that ensured she would be cared for later in life.
With their purchase, they felt like they had some control of their future needs especially with their children away from home. Like most policies, theirs will take care of all of their future needs that many people forget to consider such as assigning a care coordinator to help their family assess future needs, plan for care, and even identify caregivers who can visit them in their home. Their policy also covers home modifications such as ramps or grab bars in the shower so they can stay in their home longer. Ultimately if they do need care beyond in-home care, they can be taken to an assisted living facility/nursing home, allowing our family to be able to afford the best care possible.
When we talk about this now, my mother-in-law speaks about her decision ten years ago with confidence: “My health is good and I believe I will live a long, healthy life. Of course there’s a chance that someday I’ll need help, and when that happens my long-term care insurance will help me to remain in my own home. It will pay for caregivers to do the heavy lifting. When my children or grandchildren visit, it will not be work, it will be to spend time with me.”
Buying long-term care insurance is the best way to prepare for your own or your family member’s futures. Beyond helping in old age, a long-term care insurance policy helps cover the costs of that care when you have a chronic medical condition, a disability or a disorder such as Alzheimer’s disease. I am thankful my mother and father-in-law were aware enough to purchase long term care insurance at an early age, and I hope my own family and others learn to do the same to avoid leaving the burden of care and finances on others.
As you begin to look for your plan, we have included four important factors to keep in mind for yourself or perhaps your own parents and grandparents:
4. There are tax advantages of buying long-term care insurance if you itemize deductions, especially as you get older. The federal and some state tax codes let you count part or all of long-term care insurance premiums as medical expenses, which are tax deductible if they meet a certain threshold. The limits for the amount of premiums you can deduct increase with your age.
As you continue your journey through life, aging, and your role changes within your family, we want to help you make the best decision for your health and finances. Call Dickey McCay today and let us help you decide what Long Term-Care plan is best for you.
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